Sometimes, women may not be able to tell men what and how they feel because they do not want to hurt their ego. Men on the other hand do not know when to press women for some issues and when to hold on and give them space to breathe.
There are some things women say when they are not into men; owing to the coy nature of the women, there are certain hints they drop when communicating with men they do not want to date. The extremely smart ones may be more diplomatic in their dealings and therefore avoid being quoted.
In this present age and time, women are being lectured on the need to be polite when turning down proposal from men. Younger women are being taught not to abuse men who they do not want to date.
As a result of these, men may not get the direct answer they are waiting for. It is pathetic watching many men hang on to straws because they simply cannot interpret the signs the women give when they ask them out. In other cases, the men are simply filled with hope and continue to wait on the ladies until they become hopeless.
Owing to this, we have decided to look into this issue and analyze the things women say when they are not interested in you:
1. I would love to focus more on myself for now
Many men must have heard this line before; women imply that they had better focus on themselves and channel their resources into more productive things other than being with you.
Please do not take this personal, just know that she is not into you as she would have loved to explore with you if there was an iota of interest in the first place. Move on bro; do not waste your time.
2. I am not ready to go into a relationship now
What exactly is she waiting for? When a lady says this and go on to rant about things she wants to do first or the emotional blockages she has to deal with, then know that she is only buying her way out of the situation.
3. I have never seen you in that light
This is a polite way of telling you no. She has built a place for you in the friend zone and do not want you to get out of it. In cases where the men are older, this could put a sense of guilt in the men and make them feel funny for going after a younger girl. Pay no attention to this; she is simply not interested in you.
4. I do not know what the future says, but this is not the time
When ladies say this, they want you to stick around and keep showering them with attention. Obviously, they are not ready to date you at the moment but want to keep the option open.
Ladies who are perpetual time wasters say this. They feel good about themselves as a result of the attention they get from men they tell this and carry on with their lives without paying them attention.
5. I have someone I’m seeing at the moment
This is crystal clear; you do not need to linger around for any reason except you want to play second fiddle. She is in a relationship and does not have your time. Even if she is not in one and you know it, then it is a sign that she would rather be with someone else other than be with you.
6. I’ve got other things doing
When a lady says this to you, it is a sign she does not want to hang out with you. It is a polite way of turning down the date you took your time to prepare for. She means she has more important things to do and would rather concentrate on them. Do not take this personal, she does not want to be with you. Move on.
7. When your calls go unanswered
When you call a lady severally and she does not pick, send a text to show she is busy or call back, this means you have become a pest and she would rather be alone than talk to you on the phone.
Do not try wasting your time any further, she has no regards for you and believe you would get the hint someday. This is her innocent way of making you draw your own conclusions.
8. I am busy
It is possible for a lady to be busy with the usual hike of going to work and moving around. It is also possible for her job to be demanding as she could have little or no time to reach out to her family members.
But when she says she is busy and does not provide a date when she would be available, then she probably does not want to meet with you at all not to talk of dating.
9. When her responses are short
Imagine sending a lady a long text message only for her to give a monosyllabic answer; if this becomes a habit, it is a sign she is not interested in dating you. In some cases, the messages may never be replied while some may take eternity for the responses to come.
10. I do not think we fit
For a lady to have said this, she must have tried using any of the above signs initially. A lady out of frustration may be forced to vent by saying this to a guy point blank in order for him to leave her alone.